The $180 fireplace cover
Your property manager has "preferred contractors." You used them. You asked to close off a fireplace; the solution was apparently a thin board nailed in front of the opening for $180. Not masonry. Not a proper cap. A Pinterest fail with an invoice.
You said: on anything sizable, let's agree on scope and quality before work starts. Reasonable, right? You're not climbing ladders—you just don't want to pay premium dollars for participation-trophy craftsmanship.
The PM pushed back: you're too hands-on. Talk to contractors yourself. Other owners blindly approve repairs and everyone's happy.
Then you talked to a contractor directly. Miscommunication with tenants about what was getting fixed. PM says again: too hands-on. Other clients let us handle it.
You're wondering if you're the problem. Maybe control issues. Maybe you should be like the chill owners who treat repair approvals like a subscription they forgot to cancel.
The actual question
It's not "hands-on vs. hands-off." It's:
Who decides scope, quality, and price—and who eats mistakes?
If you pay, you need enough visibility to prevent $180 boards and wrong repairs. If they guarantee outcomes with their fee, blind trust can make sense. Most residential PM agreements are fee for coordination, not fee for outcomes—which means blind trust is how fireplaces get plywood.
What "standard" owners do (and why it's not your north star)
Many absentee owners approve work orders because:
- They don't know what things should cost
- They trust the PM brand
- One wrong approval costs less than their time
- They own many doors and optimize for speed
That's a valid strategy at 50 units. At 2–4 units, one bad rehab can wipe a year of cash flow. Your strategy can differ without being "controlling."
A fair operating agreement with your PM
Propose written approval tiers in email so it's not vibes:
| Tier | Example | Process |
|---|---|---|
| Auto-approve | Under $150, routine service (HVAC filter, clogged drain first visit) | PM proceeds, send invoice monthly |
| Quote required | $150–$1,500, cosmetic or repair with options | 1 written quote + photo; you approve in 48h |
| Bid / scope required | Over $1,500, structural, multi-room | 2 quotes or PM explains sole-source; scope doc before start |
Also define:
- Photo before/after on anything over auto-approve threshold
- Tenant communication—PM owns messaging; you don't get tenant texts unless escalated
- In-house markup disclosed (10–20% on vendor invoices is common—know it)
If they refuse any transparency over $500, you're not too hands-on—you're in the wrong relationship.
When going direct to contractors makes sense
Fine for owner-initiated projects where you hire and PM coordinates access. Awkward when both PM and contractor think the other said X to the tenant. Pick a lane per job:
- PM-led job: PM talks to tenant and vendor; you approve quotes only
- Owner-led job: You hire; PM gets key and scheduling; PM doesn't reinterpret scope
Mixed lanes on the same Tuesday is how bathrooms get half-painted.
Red flags beyond the fireplace
- Defensive when asked for photos
- "Other owners don't ask" as a substitute for answering
- No written quotes, only verbal "it'll be about…"
- Vendors only exist inside PM's black book with no names until invoice
When to replace the PM
If after a clear tier policy they still fight basic scope approval, the issue isn't your personality—it's misaligned service model. Small owners often outgrow "full service" PMs who want cattle, not collaboration.
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